TO EVOLVE INTO THE PERSON YOU WERE MEANT TO BE IS AN ACT OF SHEER AUDACITY!

Words carry power. And when we use psychological labels casually, we water them down. We confuse our healing. We stigmatise people who may need real help.

Calling every difficult relationship toxic can lead to walking away from something worth working through or staying too long in something we should leave behind.

Many Caribbean women have grown up with fathers who provided but didn’t connect. Who spoke in instructions but never in love. Who taught discipline, but not softness. And so, many of us entered womanhood unsure of what to expect from men.

This isn’t about silencing anyone. It’s about choosing words with care, especially when those words carry clinical weight or impact relationships. Because when we throw terms around too casually, we not only risk hurting others, we might also be skipping over our own reflection and healing.

Arguments aren’t the problem. How you argue - how you listen, how you repair, how you show up for each other after the heat - that’s what defines the strength of your bond.

In Caribbean families, friends often become family. Whether it’s your bredren, your sister-friend, or that cousin who isn’t really your cousin, our friendships are spiritual contracts. They deserve tending.

This is a love letter to the ones who carry loss while the world celebrates.

To be a mother is to hold space for someone else’s growth - physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. It is to show up, over and over again, with love and consistency, even when tired, even when unseen.

If you’re ready to date again after a long time alone and wondering how to ease back into connection, know that you are not alone.

Wanting someone you can’t have doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you. It means you're alive, and your heart still works.